Best Approach to the Rages of a Borderline

 

Provide them with No Audience

Provide them with No Audience

 

 

I think I have a “BPD Detector” in my body.  I can sense them from afar.  I can predict their course of actions. I can understand their pain though I don’t necessarily agree that the choices they make are all 100% due to the illness.   Many readers are intrigued on my reasons for writing articles on Borderline Personality Disorder.  The “NONs”, those who are nurturing a relationship with a Borderline agree to my thoughts and observations.  Of course, the Borderlines want my articles out of the Internet.  I would not blame them.  It may seem that I have no sympathy for them.  However, I understand them so well that I am doing everything in my power to help my children in spite of their genetic predisposition to BPD.  

I have read that “the floor model approach to therapy”, the kind of therapy that early childhood interventionist does to children  with special needs before they are 3 years old, is very effective in treating a child with high risk to BPD. 

My articles on BPD is simply  ”ruthless” but I need to get the attention of people to this disorder.  My research has taken me to empathize with those suffering and my trend of topic is towards helping the loved ones of Borderlines deal with the disorder. 

In any case, my articles hurt a Borderline tremendously.   And,  their direct attack on me on a personal level is typical.   Even before I wrote those articles, I knew it will be coming.  Every time they make a “below the belt” personal comments on my articles, it just shows how misunderstood they feel.  

I have successfully dealt with many  Borderlines in many settings.  The key is to ignore them when they do stuff that doesn’t make sense for it simply “does not make sense” to confront them.   And, this is my advise to those that have to deal with them on a daily basis.  What do you do when they attack you and rage at you?  Get out of their way and ignore them.  Set your boundaries.  Let them do their drama without an audience.  The worst that you can do in your life is to absorb all their attacks as if it doesn’t hurt you.  You are human and not a trash can.

There are victims to this BPD disorder, the one without a voice is the child.   I write articles on BPD for the innocent children so that their parents will be forewarned on what lies ahead in falling in love with someone with this disorder.

If you are intrigued, read the following articles:

“The Signs that Your Girlfriend Might Have Borderline”

“Borderline Personality Disorder”

“5 Tips to Deal with a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder”

“How to Spot a Girl with Borderline Personality Disorder”

“Developmental Trauma Disorder”

“When Your Mother is an Emotional Terrorist”

“The Scariest Aspect of Borderline Personality Disorder”

“10 Ways to Handle A Difficult Ex” :  Focus on Borderline Personality Disorder”

How to Get a Grand Piano in the House

You can see below why I am not writing too many articles these days.  I have a new grand piano.  Well, it is not actually new.  In fact, it is very old.  It is a 1914 Chickering.    

When I bought this piano from original owners, my next problem was to get it to our house.  This blog is about how to get a grand piano into your house.  

Assuming you did the preliminaries, it is wise to make a prototype in paper of the grand piano.  We had to use white architectural paper to do this.  We measured it’s length which we know is 6 feet 4 inches from the tip to the keyboard.  Put an additional two feet for the bench.  Then measure the piano across on each curve.    Then tape the paper and shape it.  This will give you an idea on how much space it will occupy in your living room.  You can also move it, tilt it around and imagine where you want the sound to project.

In my case, I put a 5 x 8 carpet and then laid the paper grand piano outline on the carpet.  I used a tape to stick it in. 

Here are some photos of how the piano movers did it.  

 

With a wooden incline, the piano movers entered the main door of the house pushing the grand piano.

With a wooden incline, the piano movers entered the main door of the house pushing the grand piano.

 

 

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Piano movers positioned the piano upon entering.

 

They moved it inside the house further and started removing straps.

They moved it inside the house further and started removing straps.

This is where they will work on putting the legs of the piano.

This is where they will work on putting the legs of the piano.

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Grand Piano is Home

 

Mrs. Treasures Poses with  1914 Chickering Grand Piano 6'4"

Mrs. Treasures Poses with 1914 Chickering Grand Piano 6'4"

Are you a “Scanner” or a Renaissance Person? I Am.

 

A Mom First and Foremost, A Learner Second.

A Mom First and Foremost, A Learner Second.

 

 

After my piano lessons, I enjoy the “excuse” of going to Books-A-Million to read.  Yes, I am a book worm.  But, I just discovered something that is quite unique about me and people called “Scanners”.  Scanner is another term for “Renaissance” people.  But, I finally have a label to many unexplained facts about me.  

I love “learning”.  If I have the money, I want to be an eternal student.  I like to get a PH.D in many degrees. My husband told me one day that I act like a person with Attention Deficit Disorder but I do not exhibit the agitation and distractibility of an ADD.  I can focus whenever I want to or when needed.  I never sleep in a lecture or a seminar.  Why?  Because any new information is interesting for me.   I am addicted to knowledge.  New information puts me on a high.  

When I go to the library, I have to borrow 10 books at the very least.  Do I get to read them all? Yes.  I like going from one book to the next, as if flipping a channel when watching television.  My interests vary in a day.  In fact, I read about 100 books in a month. 

I think this “Scanner or Renaissance” personality made me cut out to be a mother of 9 children.

I like exploring and discovering places.  I am unafraid to take risks as long as it involves learning.  I like picking the brains of all my boss when I was in the corporate world and then when I feel I have a good grasp of it, I feel like going to my next project.  I did not jump from one company to another.  I stayed in my first job for 10 years but the reason I stayed is there are numerous opportunities for me to wear many hats in this company.  In my first year, I was responsible for businesses in the Middle East.  In my next year, I was promoted.  So, I had another new challenge.  When I have mastered the job, I look for another division.  I study it and be the best in it and look for another department.  Eventually, I rose from the ranks and became the assistant of the Big Boss in the company.  Then, I experienced rubbing elbows with the “rich and the powerful”.  I travelled to many countries and it was all business-related.    My growing quest for knowledge did not stop there, I need to get out of the company because I felt I am constrained, there is no more room upwards.  Thus, I sought another country, Canada as my next exploit.  I stayed there for two years.  Then, I went to the US to make it my home.  Since Information Technology and Project Management were the “in” thing in the early 2000’s, I’ve self-studied to be an I.T. Project Manager from an Economics, International Trade  background.  It was very challenging to be an I.T. person, managing a group of programmers and system analyst. It was interesting until I got good at it and then my interest died since there was no where to go upwards.  The next step was to be a Vice President and there was just too much competition.  I knew this is not the career for me.  I persevered and stayed in the I.T. sector because of the income factor.  Oneday, I woke up with stiffness and a bad back.  

I have two pre-teen boys that needed my attention.  I decided  to be a “piano teacher”.  First of all, it can afford me a comfortable life income wise.  Second, it is not that stressful.  Third, it is time-flexible.  Fourth, I’ve got a lot of control in my hours and time to explore the world. 

Yes, I love to explore and learn new things.  These are the things that keep me going in life.  It is the reason  I love my Catholic Faith,  the more I read and study it, the more I feel so at peace and free.

Well, I have to give credit to my mother who treated me like a “crystal”.  She knew my love of learning.  We have personalities that clashed but at one point in her life, she knew that she is getting in my way.  One day, she decided that she will make me be whoever I want to be. She set me free. 

How does my dear hubby keep me happy?  First, I suspect he is a Renaissance man himself.  He does not have time to read but he got so many talents.  He is always very interesting to me.  He was the first human being to tell me that  he suspects that I am “something”  but not sure what label to give me. He was equally joyful with me when I got a copy of a book that explains this “Scanner” personality.   He told me that I need to pursue not “one thing” but “everything” that makes me happy.  

For me, being a Scanner  has its disadvantages.  I will write another blog on that, but I realized that I am not alone in this world.  I have thought that it was my piano studies that have made me a “Scanner”.  Maybe not, maybe yes.  I have to wait for feedback from my fellow musicians.  

I feel so happy that I have finally an “unofficial” label to this gift.

Preparing My House for a Grand Piano

 

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The Formal Living Room is Getting Ready for a Grand Piano.

The Formal Living Room is Getting Ready for a Grand Piano.

IMG_0237It the next few days, my house will be the home to another welcome addition to our large family.   I found a 1914 Chickering Grand Piano, 6′4 in great condition, sold by original owners.  We drove two hours to get it checked out.  It was regulated in the last two years.  The treble sound was awesome.  The action is great, responding well to my interpretation of dynamics. 

In the beginning, I played my parent’s favorite theme “Dahil Sa Isang Bulaklak” and the Chickering did not respond well to that.  I became very disheartened and made faces to my husband that this is not the piano for me.  The owners applauded my performance and had an inkling that I was a piano teacher.  

I got my classical books out and began warming up.  To my amazement, the 1914 Chickering grand piano responded to me as if it recognized all the music I was playing.  In my own inanimate world of music, this grand piano knew the classics well.    Pretty soon, I got so comfortable and challenged it.  I began to be aware of its strength and beauty.  I knew I can control this babe.   After an hour of playing,  I knew I found my grand piano.  It has such great mellow, powerful bass and at the same time has the crispiness and the right amount of brightness on the treble side. My husband felt my music in his soul.  What more should I ask from my listener?

The price was right.  

My next task in the next few days was to get a piano mover.  They quoted me $650 minimum to $1200 for 160 miles.  I got a quote of $108 for normal piano tuning from Charlotte’s best piano tuner.  An additional $50 will be charged to putting it to the standard  pitch.  I feel it would need some adjustments to perfect pitch.  But, it is very important to me that I get it to the international standard pitch before I can enjoy any piano.  He suggested 4x a year tuning for the first year.  

I have decided that the new acquisition will be located in our formal living room.  Though it is tempting to put it near the huge window, I know how direct sunlight and high varying temperatures can affect the sound and the wood.  

I also took into consideration the finishing of the piano.  It obviously does need some wood refinishing though my contact advised that since it will be soon be an “antique” piece, it is best to retain its original condition and just clean it.  

I’ve researched about the right placement of the grand piano in a room. I like to consider the aesthetic and functionality of the piece. I’ve researched that the carpets, pictures frames, walls, glasses, air vents etc. have an effect on the overall tone of the grand piano.  It is important that I understand the nuances of “acoustics” and arrange furniture pieces so it can reflect sound in the way I want it. I do not like the “muffled” sound.  Should I aim for a “recital hall” acoustic?   I think I will write an article on “How to design a room with a grand piano?”  Watch out for it.

I have played on a 9′ STEINWAY grand piano for recitals, mostly in an auditorium.  It has a rich powerful sound.  In the area of action, it responded well but one needs to be acclimatized to it before you can get the response you want.  My small fingers put me at a disadvantage.  But, I manage.

I have owned a Yamaha and Baldwin in the past.  The Yamaha has days it plays well and weeks that it sounded so unresponsive.  The Baldwin has great powerful bass even with its upright. I like that it is so playable whatever the time of the day, whatever the weather, whatever my mood.  It just responds.  Also, my neighbors compliment my performances from their yards.  It just tells me that my Baldwin’s tone quality is superb.   I like the grand piano version of  Yamaha and Baldwin.  I am very inclined to get another Baldwin.  I’ve played on many Steinway but I’ve never played in one  that I liked.  So, I have put Steinway out of my league.  I knew my tastes are different.  I want a piano that will help me sound like a concert pianist in my own little world where the audience is just me.  

I knew about Chickering and the quality of pre-1930’s era pianos.  But, to fall in love with an old one is unimaginable for me. But, it did happen.  The connection was great between me and the 1914 Chickering Grand Piano.  After reading through its history and the makers, I’ve decided that I have little to lose.

I am going to have a pretty interesting and exciting week.  I’m just on “high”. 

If you are interested on my piano related articles, click below:

“The Benefits of Piano Lessons Parents Ought to Know”

Why Should Catholics be Proud? Jewish Businessman Gives Reasons.

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Sam Miller is a prominent businessman from Cleveland.   He is Jewish.  However, he is opposing the trend in media to put down the Catholic Church in the US in many aspects.   On March 06, he delivered a speech to the City Club of Cleveland.  It was published on the May-June issue of the Buckeye Bulletin.
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I’m going to say things here today that many Catholics should have said 18 months ago. Maybe it’s easier for me to say because I am not Catholic, but I have had enough, more than enough, disgustingly enough.

During my entire life I’ve never seen a greater vindictive, more scurrilous, biased campaign against the Catholic Church as I have seen in the last 18
months, and the strangest thing is that it is in a country like the United States where there is supposed to be mutual respect and freedom for all
religions.

This has bothered me because I too am a minority in this country. You see, unfortunately, and I say this very advisedly, the Catholics have forgotten
that in the early 1850’s when the Italians, the Poles, the Latvians, the Lithuanians, all of Catholic persuasion, came to this country looking for
opportunity because of famine, (particularly the Irish) they were already looked upon with derision, suspicion and hatred. Consequently the jobs they were forced to take were the jobs that nobody else wanted: bricklayers, ditch diggers, Jewish junkmen, street cleaners, etc.

This prejudice against your religion, and mine, has never left this country and don’t ever forget it, and it never will. Your people were called
Papists, Waps, Guineas, frogs, fish eaters, ad infinitum.

And then after the Civil War, around 1864, the fundamentalists, conservatives, Protestants and a few WASP’s began planting burning crosses
throughout the country, particularly in the South. And today; as far as I’m concerned, very little has changed. These gentlemen now have a new style of clothing; they’ve gone from bed sheets to gentlemen’s suits.

There is a concentrated effort by the media today to totally denigrate in every way the Catholic Church in this country. You don’t find it this bad
overseas at all. They have now blamed the disease of pedophilia on the Catholic Church, which is as irresponsible as blaming adultery on the
institution of marriage. You and I have been sleeping: living in a false paradise. Wake up and recognize that many people don’t like Catholics. What
are these people trying to accomplish?

From the Sojourner’s Magazine dated August, 2002, listen carefully to a quote, “While much of the recent media hype has focused on the Catholic
Church’s pedophilia scandal, relatively little attention has been given to the high rate of sexual misconduct in the rest of American Christendom. This is truly a crisis that crosses the borders of all religions.”

Now let me give you some figures that you as Catholics should know and  remember.

Research by Richard Blackman at Fuller Theological Seminary shows that

- 12% of the 300 Protestant clergy surveyed admitted to sexual intercourse with a parishioner
- 38% acknowledged other inappropriate sexual contact
- In a 1990 study by the United Methodist Church:

- 41.8% of clergywomen reported unwanted sexual behavior by a colleague
- 17% of laywomen said that their own pastors had sexually harassed them.

Phillip Jenkins concludes in his book “Pedophiles and Priests” that while 1.7% of the Catholic clergy has been found guilty of pedophilia, 10% of
Protestant ministers have been found guilty of pedophilia.

This is not a Catholic problem. This is a problem of pure prejudice.

Why the media, day after day, week after week, month after month, see fit to do nothing but come out with these scurrilous stories? When I spoke recently to one of the higher ups in the newspaper I said, “This is wrong”. He said, “Why, do you want to shoot the messenger?” I said, “No, just change the message”. He said, “How?” I said, “I’ll tell you how”.

Obviously, this is not just a Catholic problem. And solutions must be broader and deeper than those carried out by Catholic cardinals. The whole
church has a responsibility to offer decisive leadership in the area of sexual misconduct whether it is child abuse, sexual exploitation, or sexual
harassment.

Recently, churches have shown unprecedented unity on issues of poverty and welfare reform. Now it is necessary to call for a broad based ecumenical council addressing the issue of sexual misconduct in the church not only the Catholic Church, all churches, including synagogues. Its goal would be transparency and openness in developing stringent, forward-looking guidelines, consistent with denominational distinctions, for preventing and addressing sexual misconduct within Christian churches and church related institutions.

Such a council could include not only denominational representatives but also a majority presence from external organizations such as child
protection agencies, law enforcement, psychiatric services, victims’ agencies, and legal and legislative representatives.

Crisis. “Crisis” in Chinese is one word. “Crisis” in Chinese means, on the one side, a real crisis problems etc., but the other side means great
opportunity.

We have a great opportunity facing us. Crisis is often accompanied by an opportunity for extraordinary growth and leadership. We have that today.
Even though you are the lowest — by far the lowest of any organized religion today when it comes to sexual harassment — American churches have
a unique opening to develop and adopt a single set of policies, principles, practices, and common language on sexual misconduct in Christian
institutions that is binding across denominations.

1. A system of cross-denomination review boards could be established to help compliance and accountability.
2. A centralized resource bank could be formed that provides church-wide updates on new legal, financial, psychological and spiritual developments in the field.
3. Guidelines, both moral and legal, could be established on how clergy, churches, and victims should best use civil and criminal actions in pursuit
of justice and financial restitution for injury.
4. A national database could be established with information on all applicants for ordination in any member Christian religion.
5. Every diocese, conference, presbytery, and district could have a designated child protection representative whose job is to ensure that the
policies and procedures are understood and implemented and that training is provided.

Any religious institution, or system, that leaves power unexamined or smothers sexuality with silence rather than promoting open conversation
that can lead to moral and spiritual maturity becomes implicated in creating an unhealthy and potentially abusive environment. An ecumenical
Christian council, authentically dedicated to strong moral leadership in the area of clergy sexual misconduct might move the church beyond the extremes of policing our own or abandoning our own.

For Christians, the true scandal is not about priests. It’s about a manipulation of power to abuse the weak. When Jesus said, “Whoever receives
the child, receives me”, he was rebuking his followers for putting stumbling blocks in front of the defenseless. Church is supposed to be a place where one can lay one’s defenses down; where one is welcomed, embraced, and blessed. This can only be authentically expressed in a culture that requires absolute respect for each individual’s freedom and self hood. Until all churches bow humbly under the requirement, the indictments by wounded women and children will stand.

Just what are these Kangaroo journalists trying to accomplish? Think about it. If you get the New York Times day after day; the Los Angeles Times day after day, our own paper day after day looking at the record, some of these writers are apostates, Catholics or ex-Catholics who have been denied  something they wanted from the Church and are on a mission of vengeance.

Why would newspapers carry on this vendetta on one of the most important institutions that we have today in the United States, namely the Catholic Church?

Do you know and maybe some of you don’t the Catholic Church educates 2.6  million students every day, at cost to your Church of 10 billion dollars, and a savings on the other hand to the American taxpayer of 18 billion dollars. Needless to say, that Catholic education at this time stands head and shoulders above every other form of education that we have in this country. And the cost is approximately 30% less.

If you look at our own Cleveland school system, they can boast of an average graduation rate of 36%. Do you know what it costs you and me as far as the other 64% who didn’t make it?

Look at your own records. Your Catholic schools graduate 89% of your students. Your graduates in turn go on to graduate studies at the rate of
92%, and all at a cost to you. To the rest of the Americans it’s free, but it costs you Catholics at least 30% less to educate students compared to the
costs that the public education system pays out for education that cannot compare.

Why? Why would these enemies of the Church try to destroy an institution that has 230 colleges and universities in the United States with an enrollment of 700,000 students?

Why would anyone want to destroy an institution like the Catholic Church which has a nonprofit hospital system of 637 hospitals which account for
hospital treatment of 1 out of every 5 people not just Catholics in the United States today?

Why would anyone want to destroy an institution like that? Why would anyone want to destroy an institution that clothes and feeds and houses the
indigent – 1 of 5 indigents in the United States? I’ve been to many of your shelters and no one asks them if you are a Catholic, a Protestant or a Jew;
just “come, be fed, here’s a sweater for you and a place to sleep at night” at a cost to the Church of 2.3 billion dollars a year?

The Catholic Church today has 64 million members in the United States and is the largest non-governmental agency in the country. It has 20,000 churches in this country alone. Every year they raise approximately $10 billion to help support these agencies.

After* *the “respected” publication, the New York Times, running their daily exposé on the Church, finally came to the conclusion of their particular investigation, which was ongoing for a long time. And guess what: buried in the last paragraph, they came up with a mouse. In their article “Decades of Damage” the Times reported that 1.8% of American priests were found guilty of this crime, whereas your own Cardinal Ratzinger in Rome reported 1.7%, the figure I gave you earlier.

Then again they launched an attack on the Church and its celibate priests. However, the New York Times did not mention in their study of American priests that most are happy in the priesthood and find it even better than they had expected, and that most, if given the choice, would choose to be priests again in the face of all this obnoxious PR the church has been  receiving.

Why wouldn’t the New York Times, the paper of record they call themselves, mention this? You had to read it in the Los Angeles Times. The New York Times refused to print it.

If you read only the New York Times, you would begin to believe that priests are cowards; craven; sexually frustrated; unhealthy criminals; that prey on the innocent. What a shame.

Freedom of the press should have some type of responsibility, too. So I say this to you: instead of walking around with a hangdog look — I talk to a
lot of Catholics all the time, “how’s everything going?” “Well, in the face of things I guess okay”. That’s the wrong answer! The wrong answer!

Also, I ran into a fellow who said they started a discussion at some social function on pedophilia and he said, “I excused myself and left the room.” I
said, “Why did you do that?” “Well, you know how it is”.
I believe that if Catholics had the figures that I enumerated here, you don’t have to be ashamed of anything. Not only are you as good as the rest,
but you’re better, in every respect.

The Catholic Church helps millions of people every day of the week, every week of the month, and every month of the year. People who are not Catholics — and I sit on your Catholic Foundation and I can tell you, and what I am telling you is so. Priests have their problems, they have their failings just as you and I in this room do, but they do not deserve to be calumniated as they have been.

In small measure let’s give the media its due. If it had not come out with this story of abusive priests, (but they just as well could have mentioned
reverends, pastors and rabbis and whatever), probably little or nothing would have been done. But what bothers me the most is this has given an
excuse to every Catholic hater and Catholic basher to come out loudly for the denigration of your Church.

If some CEO’s are crooks it does not follow that every CEO is crooked; and if some priests are sexually ill it does not follow that all are sick. And
your Church teaches that you’ve got to take in the sick and a priest who is this way has to be taken in and cannot be thrown out the 21st story of a
building. He’s got to be looked upon and given the same type of health that you would give anybody who has a broken leg or cancer or whatever.

The Church today, and when I say the Church, keep in mind I am talking about the Catholic Church, is bleeding from self-inflicted wounds. The agony that Catholics have felt and suffered is not necessarily the fault of the Church. You have been hurt by an infinitesimally small number of wayward priests that, I feel, have probably been totally weeded out by now.

You see, the Catholic Church is much too viable to be put down by the New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Cleveland Plain Dealer, take your choice; they can’t do it, they’re not going to do it and sooner or later they are going to give up. But you’ve got to make sure that you don’t give
up first.

In 1799 a notice was placed in a French newspaper that a citizen, Brachi, had died in prison. Little did the people realize that this was Pope Pius VI
who had occupied the Chair of Saint Peter for 25 years. He had been taken prisoner by Napoleon’s forces and died in prison as an indigent. At that
time the thought was that this was the end of the Catholic Church. This was 200 and some odd years ago. And the reason was that there was no Pope to succeed him at that time.

But you fooled them then, and we’re going to fool them again.

I’ve been talking more or less about the United States of America as far as the importance of the Church. Let’s bring it home to Cuyahoga County and the seven surrounding counties.

In education, you save the county 420 million dollars per year. Wherever there’s a Church and most other churches have fled the inner city, there’s a Catholic Church; and wherever there’s a Catholic Church there’s an absence of drug dealers. You talk to any bank that has real estate mortgages in the inner city, and they will tell you that the one thing that keeps up the value in that particular area is your Church. I’ve seen, for example, on
Lorain near the Metro Catholic Schools. There at the Church, the nuns used to go out in the morning with brooms and sweep away the drug dealers from around the particular area.

On Health and Human Services, the homeless, adoption, drugs, adult care and  so on, you saved the county 170 million dollars a year.

At the end of the day the difference that your local Catholic institutions make in the eight counties that comprise this diocese are several billion
dollars per year.

Why don’t we hear about this? Why, because it’s good news. If some priest was caught with his hand in the collection plate it would be front page
news. But the fact that you have thousands of students being education free, as far as the rest of the country is concerned, doesn’t make news. Why? Because it is not newsworthy, it’s not dirty.

I’m not here to deny freedom of the press, but I believe that with freedom comes responsibility, and with rights you have an obligation. You cannot
have rights that are irresponsible.

Unfortunately, our society today is protected by all rights and ruled by some of their wickedness. Anybody who expects to reap the benefits of
freedom must understand the total fatigue of supporting it.

The most important element of political speech, as Aristotle taught, is the character of the speaker. In this respect, no matter what message a man
brings in, it shouldn’t collide with his character.

The other day I was shocked when I opened up “America”, a Catholic magazine, and my good friend Cardinal Keeler, who is a very dear friend of mine, was being fingerprinted by the Baltimore police, not for a crime, but as part of the new law put in place that all members of the Church hierarchy must be fingerprinted.

Amos, of the Old Testament, accused the people of Samaria in words that seared and phrases that smote. They “cram their palaces,” he said, “with
violence and extortion.” They had “sold the upright for silver and the poor  for a pair of sandals” (Gucci, no doubt). But he also said that all this
could be reversed, if only the people of Samaria would turn away from their own self absorption and toward those who, however silently, cry out for
help. “Then,” promised Amos, “shall your justice flow like water and your compassion like a never failing stream” (Amos 5:24)

The worst feature of contemporary society is its tendency to leave each of us locked up in himself or herself, “connectionless” . To lessen this
isolation we have developed all kinds of therapies spiritual, psychological, and physical front groups that meet and talk endlessly all day long in
spas, week spas, month spas, life spas. But none of these things, from primal screams to herbal wrap, seem to be doing the trick, any more than the
huge houses and wine parties of the Samaritan did.

What we need to do is open our heart to the plight of others, even some of your priests who have been condemned. They’re human beings and they should be shown the same type of compassion we have shown anybody who is critically ill. We need to open our hearts to the plights of others, like if our hearts were a dam, so that indeed our justice and compassion may flow to all.

What is essential is that each of us steps forward to hold out our hand to someone. There is no other way to walk with God.

One of the biggest Catholic bashers in the United States wrote, “Only a minority, a tiny minority of priests, have abused the bodies of children.”
He continues, “I am not advocating this course of action, but as much as I would like to see the Roman Catholic Church ruined. I hate opportunistically retrospective litigation even more.”

Now he’s talking about our tort monsters. “Lawyers who grow fat by digging up dirt on long forgotten wrongs and hounding their aged perpetrators are no friends of mine.”

I’m still quoting this man, “All I’m doing” he said, “is calling attention to an anomaly. By all means, let’s kick a nasty institution when it is down,
but there are better ways than litigation.” These words are from a Catholic hater.

I never thought in my life I would ever see these things.

Walk with your shoulders high and your head higher. Be a proud member of the most important, non-governmental agency today in the United States. Then remember what Jeremiah said: “Stand by the roads, and look, and ask for the ancient paths, where the good way is and walk in it, and find rest for your souls.” And be proud, speak up for your faith with pride and reverence and learn what your Church does for all other religions. Be proud that you’re a  Catholic.

Reprinted with permission of the Buckeye Bulletin – courtesy of Brookside
Council # 3297, Cleveland Diocese.

Economic Recession and Rise of Behavior Challenges in Children

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The article “How the Economic Recession Will Lead to Behavior Challenges in Children” is published today.   I wish there is one government body that will study the correlation of economic recession and the rise of behavior challenges in children.  I tried to explain the correlation in a very simplified manner.

“The lack of maternal bonding in the critical formative years of a child is increasing because mothers are forced to work or get stressed out during an economic recession. This will imply a growing trend in behavior problems in the next 3 years.”

Click article here.

Happy Mother’s Day

Happy Mother’s Day to all my readers.

Notre Dame University Student Body Must Speak Up

The graduation ceremony of Notre Dame University is on May 17, 2009.  The video is a blitz to show the response of the Catholic students of Notre Dame University against the invitation of  Rev. Jenkins to President Obama.

If the students of Notre Dame University will rally against this peacefully and go on a spiritual warfare like fasting and prayer vigil, the heart of Rev. Jenkins might be enlightened. 

I am always for peaceful revolution.  With this incident is an opportunity for Notre Dame University to fight for their Catholic identity.

Music Therapist: A Recession Proof Career

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The article “Recession Proof Careers: Music Therapy” has been published today.  It is my research on Music Therapy.  I gave a bird’s eye view of what it takes to be a music therapist.     Music therapy has great positive results.  It is good to know that Medicaid and Medicare are reimbursing for this service now.  I think private health insurances will go to that direction in the future.  

The write up on Music therapy as a recession proof career is very timely.  Music students in  are disheartened to find out sometimes that they are not the best upon stepping into a music college.   Music school is so competitive.  Most of the students have numerous years of skills training in their instrument, voice or composition.  It is good to know that there is an alternative educational option if a musician has a special interest in service-oriented careers.  

Music therapy combines a solid training in music theory,  improvisation, music therapy clinical training and psychology. 

Music therapy coursework is still not readily available to all college departments offering music.  In fact, to be nationally certified for this position, you must attend an approved university.  The governing body in music therapy is the American Music Therapy Association.  

If you need to find out why Music Therapy is excellent as a career in both economic boom and bust, please read the article “Recession Proof Careers:   Music Therapy“.

For other relevant articles on music, please browse through the following article:

5 Benefits of Piano Studies that every Parent Should Know“.