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YOUR COMMENTS  HELP ME TO MOVE ON…

~Mrs. Treasures

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Testimonials:

Thank you for writing this article. Please ignore the negative criticism, since they are from unbelievers and have no clue. You have to have faith in the spiritual realm, number one, to understand this article. So if it doesn’t help you, don’t read it and move on to drugs, therapy that may help. For those of you who believe, please please pray for loved ones who have BPD. BPD is just another name of Being Provoked by the Demonic.

Angie (2009, July 28)

Thank you for this. I have never been able to bring myself to do much on Mother’s Day for my own mother. I hate trying to find a card or put together anything special. The holiday is miserable for me as I vacillate between feeling like a giant hypocrite and a terrible, ungrateful child. It’s true, I think only other people with BPD mothers understand how horrible and damaging it is to grow up this way. I have multiple personalities because of it that come out in times of stress, and ptsd so bad that I lose my vision temporarily and have uncontrollable shakes when my mother gets a certain tone in her voice. I can’t even see her right now. Bless you for being so honest in this article.

Anonymous (2009, July 23)

I enjoy reading your articles. Very insightful.

Katrina Arthurs, (2009, July 20)

Great article! I wish I had known the signs. They were not obvious until after having children with my Borderline. Then it developed into weird aggressive and anti-personal behaviors kind of like this mini-movie: http://angiemedia.com/?p=1904 Not long afterwards, it got even worse. She filed for divorce and went full-on with a BPD vilification campaign! She still wants to control everything about my life, and is using false accusations to do it. False accusations about child abuse, spousal abuse, etc. are the norm for her. She’s recruited so many people (neighbors, coworkers, church people, family members, etc.) to help her spread her lies and harass me. It’s like being hunted with the court’s approval and consent because the court is too inept to figure out what is going on and protect our children and me from her. I would have stayed with her and gotten her help, but the false accusations and how much traction she gets with them are horrifying and massively damaging.It is not safe to be anywhere around her. She seems unable to dtop lying and even works over our kids trying to make them lie, too. Those of you with BPD have to realize you are a mortal threat to your loved ones when you start up with your vilification campaigns. Literally, you can get us tossed in prison and banned from seeing our children with your lies. The only way you might make yourselves safe enough to be around is to very publicly admit you have a problem and cooperate with mental healthcare professionals and getting help to acknowledge your behaviors and learn to control them. Anything short of that is basically asking us non-BPs to play Russian Roulette with you pointing a machine gun to our heads.

Hunted by a Borderline (2009, April 07)

I love Greenville! You’ve summed of several of my favorite things about the city.

Brita Long, (2009, March 10)

That was a WONDERFUL article. I never knew much about St. Patrick, but now I know. I feel educated. Please let Joy know how much I enjoyed her article.

Dee Brandon (2009, March 17)

Just passing by.Btw, your website have great content!

Mike (2009, March 01)

WOW! and I mean WOW. I wish I would have read this four years ago. This article so accurately mirrors my intense , but on and off relationship with my former girlfriend. Everything is the same,, the stages are exactly the way I experienced them too. The stories, the childhood, the past relationship stories,,etc. are also just as I experienced. Down the the very last point about them being with someone else , but you know they are still hovering in the background, subtly still trying to manipulate and control, so when things happen, (they know things will happen, because its a pattern that they are very familiar with too) you can be a safety net. No contact is the only way out. Thank you very much for taking the time to write this. It is dead on! In the many articles that I have read on this disorder some people try to discredit those of us that have been through this and made the diagnosis ourselves,, yeah the arm chair diagnosis.

Joe, (2009, 26 February)

I’m “stuck” in a relationship with a girl whom I think has BPD right now. This article hits so close to home that it gave me chills.

Mike (2009, 17 February)

Excellent article! (^;^) From personal experience, I can attest that this not only is very useful and practical advice, it is essential for anyone struggling to maintain a successful lasting relationship with someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder. It is not easy!

Rebecca Wren (2009, January 16)

Great article. I’m going to forward it. Tremendous job.

Armywriter (2009, January 28)

This story scares the crap out of me. I would say I am currently in the middle of this type of relationship. I am starting to develop my suspensions. My girlfriend completely adores me and has to compliment me 20x a day. She has had a bad past at breakups- meaning she cheated, was physically abusive and self abusive. This story describes me in a nutshell- wish me the best.

BC (2009, January 12)

Thanks for the article. Nice to know I’m not alone.

Lisa Paris, (2008, 05 December)

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WOW! AWESOME!!  SURE WISH I COULD PLAY PIANO!  THANKS FOR SHARING.  YOUR
FAMILY HAS BEEN TRULY BLESSED!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

JJ, (2008, 27 October)

Good afternoon!

I love your articles; I added you to my favorites and also subscribed to you. Please keep on writing, you are doing excellent work!!

Thanks,

Sylvia ( 2008, November 19 )

I hope you are well. I miss reading your new work. –Christine (Sept. 03, 2008)

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THANK YOU!! For years now, I’ve been trying to figure out why I was unable to get along with my ex. A friend in mental health mentioned she thought he was BPD so I began researching on line. I still was not sure until I came across your article.

What a relief! I answered yes to the majority of your questions. It feels huge to finally be able to point and say that I feel this is what is wrong. And it means that I can start to seek help. I can change how I approach him and work with him if I can figure out from which perspective I need to do it.

I was starting to really believe I was crazy or I really was the person he says I am. It’s been death by a thousand cuts. Thank you so much. For the first time I was able to look at an aticle and say that I saw my situation in it. And if I can name it, I can get help for it. It makes it real.

Thank you so much!!

Sharon Burke ( 2008, June 11)

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Thank you so much for your message on blended families. I recently have been going through the struggles you spoke of with my will and His Will. Inevitably we made the right choice. and God will provide for his children it is so hard to remember that when you are fearing for finaces and faced with holding children day and night. forgoing your own desires. Thank you so much for sharing this real life battle with the world and with me. It was very encouraging. God Bless!

Meadowsislands (2008, August 08)

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Thank you; I wish my parents had this guide when I was younger.

Megan Deroche (2008, Sept 22)

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I was reading your article ‘how to spot a girl with bpd’ and in many ways it matches – except that initially my girl was showing signs of paranoia, constantly checking me out as if I might become an axe murder, we met online.

I am writing to you because your piece seems to be very certain of the pattern. I am not sure if I am just dealing with a bratty princess who loves drama, or a serious personality disorder.

I won’t waste your time telling you why I remained in this relationship – I was in love, and cared about her very much, and she had other good moments – also it was very short lived on account of the fact that I had to be away – and I had never seen behaviour quite like it, so I didn’t know what to make of it, and my caring side came out to want to help. I have sinced realised this is not something you can ‘fix’ and that she needs time and nurture from a qualified objective source. At least in my opinion she does – but I don’t say this to write her off.

I am however interested in your comments if you have time to give them

Simon W. (2008, September 10)

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Thank-you for telling the real truth about how difficult it is and how utterly emotionally draining it is to have a mother with borderline personality disorder. There are so many articles that tiptoe around the truth and never tell how adult children of BPD’s are in constant terror from their mothers. This article was spot-on and I thank-you for giving a voice to all the adult children who are utterly confused and victims of this terrible illness that rips families and souls apart. I am an adult child victim as well and I could relate to EVERY sentence in this article.

Veronica (2008, May 05)

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Thanks for further enlightenment, because I’ve been on a lifetime search for what exactly is wrong with the mother I have always known is crazy.

Truth Seeker2  ( 2008, May 13)

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There needs to be more awareness and information on this horrible disorder for the sake of all. It was not until I was 37 and my children were 20 and 17 that I had a name to place with my disorder. It is hard to overcome the symptoms associated with this devistating disorder if you don’t know what the problem is or that one exists. I am thankful I knew there was an issue. BPD is often misdiagnosed or overlooked as the person just being “difficult.” Although, I was not as severe as the BPD described in Mrs. Treasure’s article, I could relate as I too am a victim of BPD parents and have overcome many unhealthy behaviors. My kids have suffered though not in the same ways I had perhaps. It tears my heart apart for their sake and mine- of course. My son is more sensitive or handled my outbursts differently than my daughter. By the time I had them I had some realitive normalcy but during times of stress, I would lose my self control and have to fight to regain it. Trust is a huge.

Temporary in Vanity (2008, Sept. 12)

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A wealth of great info here, thanks!! I am the one who has the kids at home and their step dad has to deal with a lot of issues. This was a good read for my family!

Firefly (2008, May 04)

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I thought I was mad each time I jogged or walked especially in cold weather thank you very helpful. Now my family wont think I am crazy

Bea (2008, October 10)

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There are so many of these things that seem to relate to me. Being bi-polar i tend to shy away from meeting people and stay off to myself too much, guess i am more of a loner. thank you for writing this.  Good Job Miss Mrs.

Ken, Coffee Mug (2008, May 7)

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I am so blessed by this. This is just a reminder of the greatness of our God. He is ALWAYS on time, so why worry??? This is was an inspiration to me because there are times when I feel like my luck is running out. But I have to remember that God knows best, He knows when, where, and how, and if we just keep the faith, WE HAVE NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT. God Bless you Joy, your very hardworking husband, Alex, and your 9 children.

Dee (2008, June 06)

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This is so awesome. I think the Mom had an angel and a gift from God. Thank you for sharing this.

Sfaloon ( 2008, May 03)

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Well said! There really is so much to consider before agreeing to marry someone who already has children. If couples have realistic expectations rather than expecting everything to just fall into place after the wedding, then they have a better chance of success.

Sophie (2008, June 23)

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What an intriguing article. It reminds me of some of the “lost” teachings of theCatholic Church. Thanks for writing it.

Hally Z. (2008, October 19)

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Very Funny! You should have your own reality show!

Nancy O’Neill (2008, Nov. 14)

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OMG! You have your hands full!! 9 kids? How do you do it? What do you say to your teenagers to keep them interested in religion? What is your Secret?

Lucy T. (2007, Nov. 09)

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Joy, What a beautiful reflection on your marriage to Alex and your raising of the children. May God give you all the Grace and strength to do His Holy Will. All the things you personally hope for will come to pass when He is ready for it!

Father Bart (2007, Sept. 05)

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Praise God! Thank you for your patient reliance upon God and submission to Mother Church . You are a shining example!

Fr. Dwight Longenecker (2007, November 17)

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I laughed, I cried, it touched me Bob. I loved this! We are not catholic, or mormon, but we have 8 kids, and we get all the above questions PLUS you must be catholic! you must be mormon. We just say, nope, we just like sex. Great post.

Blessings,

Marye (2007, November 13)

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Stumbled upon your website and marveled at your journey. In one way or another, I can relate to some events and challenges in your life. May the love of our Saviour dwell in your home today and always.

Yours in Christ,

Basilio (2007, October 30)

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