The Accusing Mother

What triggers us to find fault in our  child? It can be our frustrations. It can be our feelings of rejection. It can be our anger. It can be our resentment. It can be our fears. It can be a host of many emotions intermingled with another. When we find fault with our  child, we [...]

When Your Children Cause You Distress and Disturbance

It is not out of the ordinary to hear a parent complain about the distress that children place on them.  It could be from the mundane to the difficult disorders. One day, I wrote this letter to an online friend who was seeking an advice on what to do with his 13 year old son.  [...]

Love Can Help Heal Disorders Related to Attachments

“Your actions towards your RAD children may seem very small and ordinary, but if you do it with love, it gets pleasing and powerful”.  In my heart, I heard God say this to me tonight when I visited the Adoration Chapel.  I asked him to talk to me. This afternoon, I had a very long [...]

To Spank or Not To Spank

I’m confused.   I go to confession and mention that I was overly harsh in disciplining my children… well one of them.   The priest usually says something like,  it’s not a sin to spank them,   or they owe you obedience.   So, while I see his point,  and I’m not opposed to spanking them at all… it’s that I do [...]

How many times do we forgive our RAD or BPD child?

How many times do we need to forgive our children with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) or Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? Day in and day out?? Its like a cheating husband or wife, u never can fully get the trust back. My daughter lies and steals everyday all day long. When is enough enough? When this [...]

Are you at your wit’s end with your difficult child?

I’m a certified mother of a difficult child and the ten steps on how to deal with this kind of child are just timely and very helpful to me. Thanks for sharing your article.May the good Lord bless you. Sarah (June 24, 2010) This is the article she is talking about: Ten Tips for How [...]

Anniversary Gift from 16 year old daughter – A SONG

My husband and I celebrated our anniversary right after his birthday.  Our funds were very limited that day because we were on a string of misfortunes. Anyhow, we went to mass with our oldest son to thank God for our marriage.  We headed to my favorite place “The Cheesecake Factory”. I got him our first [...]

When Your Child is Poor in Spirit – The Difficult Child

Last night, I watched the movie “Monsieur Vincent”.  It was a black and white film in  English captions.  These kind of films might discourage a person right away. Some viewers do not like to read captions but please  give it a chance.  It won the Best Foreign Language Film (Oscars) in 1948. It is the [...]

Trauma in Children

The book “The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog” by Bruce Perry is an excellent read to understand trauma in children.  It substantiates several important strategies to healing.  I’d like to make an article on it but basically for my notes the following are what I got from the book: 1.  Healing happens not [...]

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